If there is a “That Guy” when it comes to fathers, my husband would be him as well. There is so much humor out there on social media lately poking fun at dads, and suggesting that they are inept at parenting. I can’t speak for all cases, but this does not apply to my husband. Granted, the parenting learning curve for him was quite steep, but he enjoyed every minute of it.
Now raising a son of my own, I already see the way he looks up to his Daddy. I am happy that my husband will make such a great role model for him. Here are some things that I hope my son will learn from his amazing father!
1. How to love
My husband wears his heart on his sleeve. He has no problem showing his love for our son, his family, or me in public. That was a bit of an adjustment for me, and something that could be embarrassing at times, but I have learned to embrace it.
2. How to persevere through challenging time
He, just as anyone else, has been faced with challenges. The biggest challenge for him by far has been dealing with his brain tumor. He has gone through brain surgery, radiation, more MRIs than he can probably count at this point, and will soon be going through chemo treatment. His strength through it all has been a motivation, and something I hope my son looks up to as he gets older and more aware of what is going on around my husband’s health.
3. How to give back
Service and volunteerism is something that has always been important to my husband. He joined AmeriCorps NCCC after college, and did amazing work helping families recover from Hurricane Katrina. He has volunteered for numerous other organizations, most recently being the Ronald McDonald House. Every chance he has to give back, he does. This was one of the things on his internet dating profile that caught my eye, and still is one of his most admirable qualities that I love today.
4. How to ignore gender roles
It takes a man secure in his masculinity to be OK with reversing some of the societal gender roles that are in place. My husband has done just that, and in our house we do what make sense for us, which is not necessary doing what the husband or wife have traditionally done. We co-parent. He does a lot of the cooking and cleaning. I handle the budget and bills. We divide things up so that they make sense for us, and I hope that our son looks at what his father does around the house and appreciates it.
5. How to make the most of what you have
We have had our fair share of financial struggles, however we always find a way to make the most out of it. Dave finds little ways to make each occasion special, and to do a lot with what little we have had at some times. Being happy with what you have and where you are instead of wishing for what you don’t have is the way my husband lives his life, and something I hope our son picks up on.
6. How to have fun
The only thing my husband is more of than fun is awkward. We have always had a great time together, and enjoy finding new experiences to enjoy together. That has only increased since Patrick was born. Our household is one of love and laughter, and I hope that our son develops a zest for life like his father.
7. How to cry
He might be embarrassed about this one, but I think it is one of the most important lessons he can teach our son: It is OK for men to cry! My husband isn’t afraid to let the tears roll (although it is usually in the privacy of our own home), and I love him a little more each time they do. Whether at the birth of our son, a sentimental moment between us, or a sappy moment on TV, he isn’t afraid to let his true emotions shine through.
8. How to be a husband
I hope that Patrick turns out to be an amazing husband like his father. He is my best friend and partner in everything we do. Of course we have our fights like every other couple, but at the end of the day we love each other and have created an amazing life together.
9. How to try new things
One of the best things about Dave (I know it seems like there are a lot!) is that he loves to try new things, and very little embarrasses him! In his first year of fatherhood, I’m sure he found himself doing things he never imagined! He isn’t afraid to look silly, and love meeting new people. I see a lot of that in Patrick already!
10. How to be a father
Most importantly, I hope that Patrick learns to be a father from watching Dave. There are so many children who don’t have fathers actively involved in their lives, and I am so lucky that Dave is here to be in Patrick’s. He has already been amazing with him, and I can’t wait to watch their relationship grow even more, and to see him with our future children as well. Watching him with Patrick has made my love for him grow even more.
I am excited to celebrate Father’s Day again this year, and recognize my husband for all that he does!